a special feature from Kay Ziplow & Leslie Zinberg, founders

Let’s agree- we can’t always predict, determine, or control what will happen from day to day- but what we can do is train our mindsets to accept the changes, challenges or whatever is thrown our way. We need to deal with the curve balls thrown in life. One of the most difficult things for all of us as we age, is to learn to roll with the punches, and train ourselves not to stress or become emotionally crippled due to circumstances out of our control. That being said- there are many schools of thought and many options out there. If you are one of those who become stressed by life’s changes and challenges, consider joining a counseling group or go to yoga, or read up on mindfulness, or seek inspiration.

Many books have been written about mental health, personal growth, and being happy…stories that can help you move forward or learn to cope with certain situations. Psychologists regularly recommend books during consultations. Reading not only helps you relax, but also helps you look at things from a different perspective and gain new insights.

Here’s a list of 5 books recommended by psychologists. Pick one that speaks to you right now and crack it open. Who knows how it could change your life?

1. Russ Harris – The Happiness Trap
“If you run after happiness, you’ll run past it.” That’s the philosophy behind The Happiness Trap. It contains many mindfulness exercises that teach you how to put destructive thoughts in their place. Acceptance is a key concept here. It’s about breaking the viscous cycle of always searching for happiness.

2. Francesca Gino – Rebel Talent
Being a rebel doesn’t have to mean you’re always getting into trouble. It can also be about bringing more joy into your life. Rebels are innovative people, and they can make real changes. Try breaking a rule  just once (not all of them of course) and see what kind of doors it opens for you.

3. Brené Brown – The Gifts of Imperfection
Do you worry too much about what other people think about you? Then this book is for you. You’ll recognize that you’ve always been good enough and learn to embrace vulnerability.

4. Simon Sinek – Start With Why
Simon Sinek explains how the ‘Golden Circle’ works and how many successful people began by asking themselves ‘why’ before carrying out their mission. It doesn’t matter what you do, but how you do it. A still inspiring book based on the most watched TED Talk of all time.

5. James Clear – Atomic Habits
Everyone has bad habits. If you’re struggling to unlearn them, then it probably doesn’t mean there’s anything wrong with you; it’s just the system you’re using. In this guide by James Clear, supported by biology, psychology, and neuroscience, you’ll learn how to change your bad habits and maintain your good ones.

Making homemade orange juice is a great quality- just use oranges, and if you want homemade lemonade- the same applies. Do not wait for a crisis to paralyze you- take control of your options and opportunities in life to learn from each experience and not become immobilized.