It’s a topic likely to make younger people squirm, but elder sex is having a moment, following a breakthrough British study showing that physical intimacy is still important to many seniors. Helloooo! Research shows that as we all age, it’s a lot of fun and good for your health to just not ‘sweat all the little stuff’… after all, we did that when we were young! Here are some great tips to keep you on your toes, healthy, happy, and getting your groove on!*
It helps you look better.
Regular exercise can keep your body looking its very best and that can help your confidence and boost your sex life.
For women, regular physical activity might help with arousal.
Women may also benefit from Kegel exercises; they can make your pelvic floor muscles stronger. You can identify those muscles the next time you pee by stopping in midstream. Practice tightening and relaxing those muscles several times a day.
Men who exercise are less likely to have problems with erectile dysfunction, or ED, than men who are inactive. If you enjoy long-distance bicycling, make sure you have a soft, comfortable seat and a bike that fits you properly. This can help you avoid a potential ED problem.
Be sure to talk to your doctor before you begin any new exercise program.
Keep it interesting; try something new.
When you’ve been with the same partner for a long time, you may want to come up with ideas to add a little variety to your sex life.
The answer might be something as simple as changing the time of day you have sex. If you’re too sleepy at night, maybe sex in the morning is right for both of you.
Some other ideas to keep things interesting:
Try different sexual positions.
Set the stage and create a romantic atmosphere; a little planning can go a long way.
Take it out of the bedroom and find a new place to make love.
Shower or take a bath with your lover.
Indulge in professional massages that will leave you both relaxed.
Think beyond intercourse.
If you or your partner can’t do this anymore, there are other options for you to enjoy closeness and pleasure.
The simple but intimate acts of kissing and touching should not be overlooked. You and your partner may also consider:
Giving each other sensual massages
Trying out sex toys such as vibrators
Talk things out.
Talk openly with your partner if you have any concerns about your sex life, whether it’s about your changing desires or how you feel about your body.
If you’re both unhappy with where your sex life is and haven’t been able to work it out, you might want to talk with a sex therapist. Your doctor should be able to give you a referral.
And remember, some older couples find their sex lives are actually better as they’ve aged. You may find you have more time and privacy, plus you can have more intimacy with a long-time partner, and less inhibitions.
*Portions of article reprinted from: https://www.webmd.com/healthy-aging/guide/sex-after-50#1