Do you talk about who you are—not just that you are the parent of one of their parents. Discuss what you do in a day. If you work or you volunteer or you paint or play pickle ball, talk about it. Discuss some of your favorite books. Talk about your family history. Discuss what you have learned from life. Let the kids learn how cool you are. Have fun with them. Drink the boba, eat the ice cream, play on the floor, put on that silly costume.. .And laugh!