Grandparents have a role in the lives of their grandchildren, but what exactly is that role? Let your adult children take the lead and discuss your expectations with them.
Becoming a grandparent changes everything. Coupled with incomparable joy is uncertainty about where you fit in. Your role — not always appreciated by society — is vitally important in shaping a grandchild’s life. At the end of the day, you and the parents want what’s best for the child. But, as you may discover you don’t always share the same ideology, and you must take a step back and understand that you’ve entered their world, sometimes feeling like a foreign ambassador. And, what you may really need is a handbook for diplomacy!
It goes without saying that no divorce is easy and the death or dissolution of a marriage is undoubtedly a challenging experience for all parties involved. However, a divorce where children are involved naturally adds a layer of complexity that cannot be ignored. Like all children, those of divorced parents, did not ask to be here. They didn’t ask to be born, and they certainly didn’t ask for their parents to get divorced. In spite of their involvement being completely out of their control, children of divorced parents typically are the biggest casualties of the split.
There, I said it- now it’s out in the open for everyone to know. I’m an out of the closet selfish grandma. Yep it’s true, and I am damn proud about it. “What is this you say to yourself?” Well, let me take a moment and fully explain what this is all about.
Fall is such an exciting season with the weather getting cooler and the leaves turning beautiful colors. There are so many fun fall activities to do with kids so take a look at this list of over 100 fun and kid friendly ideas for making the most of fall!
My daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We’ve decorated her locker, bought new uniforms, even surprised her with a new backpack. But tonight, just before bed, we did another pre-middle school task that is far more important than the others. I gave her a tube of toothpaste and asked her to squirt it out onto a plate. When she finished, I calmly asked her to put all the toothpaste back in the tube. She began exclaiming things like “But I can’t!” and “It won’t be like it was before!” I quietly waited for her to finish and then said the following:
Well it’s certainly true, kids sure grow up fast. One day they are toddlers, and a flash they are all grown. One thing is for sure, some of the most difficult years involve tween & teen years. Here’s the good news… You can do something to help them (but it’s probably different than what you’ve been doing).
Most parents and grandparents can agree that it’s a good idea to set aside technology-free family time. But, at the same time, it’s also helpful to remember all the ways technology can bring families closer. Young people, in particular, filter much of their experiences through their phones, so turning phones off for extended periods of time may actually cause them to feel less connected.
Here are a few ways technology can enhance family togetherness. Whenever possible, use the simplest apps, so as many people as possible can participate.
There’s no doubt that the end of the summer is rather sad. Those lazy days for kids are kind of over and the back to school season can be a tough transition…so, Grandparents, we decided to repost one of our top articles on “Back to School” from child and adolescent therapist, Bonnie Compton.* We think this advice is valuable enough to repeat year after year.
When your adult child got married, did you envision a wonderful relationship with his/her spouse? Did you draw a picture in your mind of endless visits, traditional family dinners, holidays, and so forth?
Sometimes our dreams and wishes can easily slip into expectations, and that’s what gets us in trouble!
Got your attention huh? You see the legs, a pick-up truck, some jeweled stilettos (with some tell-tale dirt on the heels) and what do you think? What races through your mind? Ah, come-on, grab a smile, chuckle for a second, and join us. We want you to enjoy every moment of this grandparent journey, this part of your life that is richer, fuller, and more exhausting than ever.
Relativity speaking, we all mean well, right? Of course we do! Often times we say things with the best of intentions, but in the end, our words, our delivery, and just the general environment of the conversation fall short of anything but trouble. Hey, everyone is human. So, when we falter as adults and need to take a quick look at ourselves in the mirror, remember these words of wisdom and advice we have collected to share with you.