As grandparents, it is our job to love and support our grandchildren and children through their struggles, but to refrain from solving their problems for them. (No matter how much we are tempted.). In doing so, we equip them with insight from their struggles and failures in order to become stronger. Our goal as grandparents and parents is to encourage our children to think as big as they can, work for nothing less than the best, to have courage and, most importantly, to be kind! Grandparenting is all about contributing to the evolution of relationships.
Having people that support us and bring us encouragement is so very important for us to live a healthy, happy life! Psychology studies show that, in the long term, the most important thing in your life is your personal relationships. More important than your circumstances, hardships or successes, stuff you own or places you go, good quality relationships increase your resilience and your happiness, and protect you from depression and other related “afflictions”.
A wonderful read about sharing, caring, loving and being…..
How do you get along with the “other” grandma? Many grandmas have confessed they feel competitive with the “other” grandma. It’s normal to feel a little rivalry for our grandchildren’s affection. Knowing it’s shared with another set of grandparents can sometimes feel threatening — especially, if the “other” grandma lives closer to the grandchildren, has more money to spend on them, and has more privileges because she’s the maternal grandma. Sometimes it can feel like a real tug-o-war with the other grandma. So how do you get into the right mindset that allows you to be the best grandma you can be without feeling like it’s a competition?
With changing family patterns, increased life expectancy, and growing numbers of two incomes, there are higher rates of family breakdown. Grandparents are now playing an increasing role in their grandchildren’s lives. And the definitions of who and what grandparents are has changed over the past decades as well. We grandparents have re-defined ourselves unlike any other generation.
As grandparents, learning how to control the urge to step on toes or overstep boundaries in relationships is an important part of our personal being that can affect every aspect of life and our familial and social relationships. For some people, silence comes naturally. These fortunate individuals know the power of silence and they are comfortable in that silence. However, there are quite a few of us who need to learn the art of practicing silence.
Learning from our faults is a vital part of growing up and indeed our entire lives. Everyone makes mistakes, not just children. However, as grandparents and parents, it is our duty to help our children improve and learn from their blunders.
(with kids that is!)
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“Grannnnnnnddddmmaaaaa, I’m bored!”
This phrase can make any grandparent or parent break out in a sweat or hives!
If you are stuck inside and can’t find something to keep your toddler or preschooler occupied besides Paw Patrol, and the older kids want to be on their devices, here are a few ideas that don’t require a lot of money or creativity. Often times we tend to forget that the most fun ever is when we just use our imagination… spontaneously!
It’s a topic likely to make younger people squirm, but elder sex is having a moment, following a breakthrough British study showing that physical intimacy is still important to many seniors. Helloooo! Research shows that as we all age, it’s a lot of fun and good for your health to just not ‘sweat all the little stuff’… after all, we did that when we were young! Here are some great tips to keep you on your toes, healthy, happy, and getting your groove on!*