My daughter starts middle school tomorrow. We’ve decorated her locker, bought new uniforms, even surprised her with a new backpack. But tonight, just before bed, we did another pre-middle school task that is far more important than the others. I gave her a tube of toothpaste and asked her to squirt it out onto a plate. When she finished, I calmly asked her to put all the toothpaste back in the tube. She began exclaiming things like “But I can’t!” and “It won’t be like it was before!” I quietly waited for her to finish and then said the following:
Well it’s certainly true, kids sure grow up fast. One day they are toddlers, and a flash they are all grown. One thing is for sure, some of the most difficult years involve tween & teen years. Here’s the good news… You can do something to help them (but it’s probably different than what you’ve been doing).
Most parents and grandparents can agree that it’s a good idea to set aside technology-free family time. But, at the same time, it’s also helpful to remember all the ways technology can bring families closer. Young people, in particular, filter much of their experiences through their phones, so turning phones off for extended periods of time may actually cause them to feel less connected.
Here are a few ways technology can enhance family togetherness. Whenever possible, use the simplest apps, so as many people as possible can participate.
There’s no doubt that the end of the summer is rather sad. Those lazy days for kids are kind of over and the back to school season can be a tough transition…so, Grandparents, we decided to repost one of our top articles on “Back to School” from child and adolescent therapist, Bonnie Compton.* We think this advice is valuable enough to repeat year after year.
When your adult child got married, did you envision a wonderful relationship with his/her spouse? Did you draw a picture in your mind of endless visits, traditional family dinners, holidays, and so forth?
Sometimes our dreams and wishes can easily slip into expectations, and that’s what gets us in trouble!
Got your attention huh? You see the legs, a pick-up truck, some jeweled stilettos (with some tell-tale dirt on the heels) and what do you think? What races through your mind? Ah, come-on, grab a smile, chuckle for a second, and join us. We want you to enjoy every moment of this grandparent journey, this part of your life that is richer, fuller, and more exhausting than ever.
Relativity speaking, we all mean well, right? Of course we do! Often times we say things with the best of intentions, but in the end, our words, our delivery, and just the general environment of the conversation fall short of anything but trouble. Hey, everyone is human. So, when we falter as adults and need to take a quick look at ourselves in the mirror, remember these words of wisdom and advice we have collected to share with you.
You don’t need to balance on a ball, but consider this: did you know that strength training is an extremely important and effective form of exercise – especially for those over 50? While many people only do a cardio workout, it’s important to mix up your type of exercising so that your body can benefit from a variation, just as you do with your diet (hopefully)!
Since school is out, and we are well into the summer, you may just find the time to fit in something that makes you the grandparent even more GRAND! – a wonderful excursion or trip together. And, best of all, we aren’t suggesting long traveling, just some genuine time together and a couple of tips to consider.
Today is a new day – yesterday is history…. Even if you didn’t pay attention to your health needs when you were younger, there is always time to start anew for your future, and I intend to help you with some simple thoughts about just that – your health.
It’s our belief that sharing is caring; and therefore, we are all about just that! Together we bring you a combination and blend of our grandparenting tips. We hope every moment you’re together with your grandkids, you’re mindful of how truly special this journey is.